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Cocktail Musings: A Certain House Revisited

Cocktail Musings: A Certain House Revisited

In my last post, I mentioned that it was the start of Pisces season, a sign that happens to occupy the place in my personal birth chart that helps me to understand the feeling of being home, and so I have found myself preoccupied with these ideas throughout this past week. Many of us move multiple times over the course of our lives and, as a result, we often understand the idea of home as being related to a particular house at a certain stage of our lives. Each time we move, it’s not exactly as though we’re starting over, although we sometimes say that, but more that we are adding on another layer to a base that is already rich with experience. When I think of my childhood houses, I recognize how foundational they were for my understanding of home, especially in terms of teaching me certain things that I wanted to carry forward, as well as others that I knew I had to leave behind. When I consider the two homes that I attempted to bring into being for my own family, first when they were young and then again later after my parents had died, I know that I did both well in many ways, but missed the mark in others. I am certain that these opposites are playing out in the homes my children are currently creating. I radically changed my own concept of home just over six years ago when I ventured out alone for the first time ever, not to start over but to make a necessary change that filled me with a combination of terror, sadness, and hope, often in unequal parts. Over time, I learned that it was possible to keep many of the things that mattered so much to me and still take my life in a direction that was different, so long as I remained fundamentally who I had always been. What couldn’t quite remain intact, however, was the idea of home that I had created for my children. I had toppled that, and because I was well aware of the pain that I had caused, I have tried to rebuild on our original foundation, albeit in ways that were small and very different. In my case, home could not yet be found in a house, but I have longed for the day when I could provide that sense again.

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Friday Musings: Spinning Backward

Friday Musings: Spinning Backward

Those of you who know me personally, read me regularly, or enjoyed my horoscope series and planetary series know that I love all things astrological and astronomical. I have always wanted to write about Mercury Retrograde, that particular phenomenon that occurs in the heavens but also affects us so tremendously here on earth, but the dates never seemed to coincide with a blog post. Well, it just so happens that yesterday began a new retrograde cycle that will last until August 19th, so I now have the

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Music and Cocktails: Sweet Like Candy to My Soul

Music and Cocktails: Sweet Like Candy to My Soul

Ah, yes. You know this line. It’s from “Crash Into Me,” released by the Dave Matthews Band in December of 1996. It reached #19 on Billboard’s Hot 100 and rose all the way to #7 on their Modern Rock Tracks chart in March of the following year. Before we go any further, let’s be honest and say that since Dave Matthews admitted on VH1 Storytellers that the lyrics are about a peeping Tom, it has become somewhat embarrassing to confess that this is a song we actually like. Even prior to

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Movie Bars: I Had To Go See About a Girl

Movie Bars: I Had To Go See About a Girl

In 1994 Ben Affleck and Matt Damon finished writing a screenplay for a thriller that centered around the idea of a young “Southie” from Boston who is being recruited by the government because of his genius intelligence. After Miramax bought the rights to the film, president Rob Reiner encouraged Damon and Affleck to drop the thriller idea and focus instead on the relationship between the young man and his therapist, with an additional romantic twist thrown in. This became the film that we all know as Good Will Hunting that was nominated for nine Oscars and won two: Best Supporting Actor for Williams and Best Original Screenplay for Affleck and Damon. I can still remember watching the two of them up on stage at the Academy Awards that year. There are a number of bar scenes in the movie, the most analyzed being the one that occurs in the Bow and Arrow where Will puts a pompous Harvard student in his place and captures the heart of Skylar (Minnie Driver) in the process. This scene is certainly critical to the film because it reveals the extent of Will’s genius to the audience, while simultaneously establishing the instant attraction between him and Skylar. At the advice of my son Connor, who helps me so much in working through my ideas for these movie posts, I chose to look instead at the more understated bar scene that occurs between Will’s therapist, Sean Maguire, and his mentor, Gerard Lambeau, played by Robin Williams and Stellan Skarsgård, respectively.

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Friday Musings: I Remember Everything

Friday Musings: I Remember Everything

Wednesday’s crazy snow day here on the East coast gave me the opportunity to watch Call Me By Your Name, one of this year’s Oscar nominated movies. It’s a story of first love that transcends questions of gender, age, and impropriety so completely that it’s able to evoke tremendous emotions in its viewing audience. I, for one, was left sobbing at the end of it, completely unravelled by one spoken line. It left me thinking about what it is that we seek from one another in terms of our relationships, no

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